Wednesday, 30 April 2014

Goals - Wheel of Life


Goals - Wheel of Life

My experience

A MGHOW (Man Going His Own Way) by definition is a statement of self-ownership and a declaration that you alone have the right to decide what your goals in life will be, as opposed to having your goals dictated by others. It's a great declaration, but don't spend too much time basking in it... there is work to do! 


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The Wheel of Life is a common tool used by 'life' coaches everywhere.  I was first exposed to it in the book "Success for Dummies" by Zig Ziglar.  It was over 10 years ago, and I lost sight of it until recently I came across it again at the following link:
http://www.worklifedesign.com.au/is-this-the-ultimate-life-coaching-tool-all-hail-the-wheel-of-life/

Not quite the same as Zig's, but I liked how this one fleshed out some key points for each area of life.  I don't know about you, but the first thing that comes to mind when I hear "Personal Growth" is weight gain, so I changed that category to "Personal Development".  Career / Work I find a bit depressing to be honest. To me, "career" is one of these corporate type terms that tries to paint a job as being on par with something more important, like family, or... LIFE. Also, lets face it, most of us do not have a career, but 'just a job'.  According to Forbes, 70% of employees HATE their job!  A true career, in my view, is a job that you REALLY, REALLY, LOVE, has a definite career path, garners respect, and makes your richer over time as your expertise grows. 

MGTOW LEVEL 4's VIEW


For those that are unaware of Level 4 MGTOW:

Level 4: Minimalism
Men who have decided that it is not in their best interest to waste life by working at jobs they don’t like so they could buy things they don’t need. He will not produce more than is necessary for his own individual survival and acceptable standard of living... - See more at: http://mgtow1.blogspot.ca/2014/03/inaugural-post.html#sthash.ixgq8Xdu.dpuf
Level 4: Minimalism
Men who have decided that it is not in their best interest to waste life by working at jobs they don’t like so they could buy things they don’t need. He will not produce more than is necessary for his own individual survival and acceptable standard of living...

With that in mind I changed "Career / Work" to "Work & Entrepreneurship".  I've always wanted to be an entrepreneur, but during 11 years of marriage this was very limited and stifled.  The years following divorce I spent way too much time trying to catch women, and way, way, too many hours on online dating sites that I could of been using in something more productive!  After embracing MGTOW, you could say I'm going from "Enter-No-Pussy" (Level 3 MGTOW) to Entrepreneur (Level 4 in that I only need to produce enough for an acceptable standard of living), and as a means to leave "Work" as defined as paid employment (i.e.leaving 'just a job').

My MGTOW Wheel of Life

Level 4: Minimalism
Men who have decided that it is not in their best interest to waste life by working at jobs they don’t like so they could buy things they don’t need. He will not produce more than is necessary for his own individual survival and acceptable standard of living... - See more at: http://mgtow1.blogspot.ca/2014/03/inaugural-post.html#sthash.ixgq8Xdu.dpuf

MGTOW wheel of life
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So as a Level 3 MGTOW, ( defined as a man who rejects all form of traditional romantic relationships, including dating, one-night stands, etc. Any contact with opposite sex is kept strictly professional.), I re-worked the wheel to better fit and reflect MGTOW and my life.  Yes, I know I spelled Entrepreneurship incorrectly, but I am a MSHOW (man spelling his own way).  I later decided to split up work and entrepreneurship into their own areas.  Relationships/Romance are definitely out for a myriad of reasons that could be a separate blog post in itself....  oh wait, it is!   See my first blog post at http://mgtow1.blogspot.ca/2014/03/inaugural-post.html  or simply click "The Journey Begins" button at the top menu bar.


Evaluate your life!

Once you have your own 'wheel', you can rank how well you think you are doing in each area of life, a 1 being 'totally dissatisfied, a 5 being just a pass, while a 10 would be that you feel totally satisfied.

The section labelled Entrepreneur used to have "Romance", so feel free to change it back (if you still chase women), or change it to something that has meaning to you.  You could even get rid of it altogether as there are no rules that you need 8 pie slices.  Just google "wheel of life" and you will see many examples with different categories like purpose, social life, lifestyle, travel, and so on.

My self evaluation

Physical Environment - 7 - fairly comfortable renting a quiet 1 bedroom apartment which is less than 5 minutes away from work. Not fond of ever owning a house again but not ruling it out either. Seriously need to get rid of some clutter.

Work - 4 - friendly small company but a sweatshop.  Company actively trying to be sold which will mean my shares will be worth something, but job security after that is quite unlikely. Limbo.

Finances - 7 - Doing very well saving up money but dragged my heels on how to invest it.  I now have a plan but stocks are overpriced at this time.

Health - 5 - My diet needs a reboot. I stay up too late. I don't exercise. I drink too much coffee, because I stayed up late the night before.

Family and Friends - 6 - kind of indifferent. I have a small circle of friends, but I am okay with that.

Entrepreneur - 3 - A long way from working for myself.

Personal Growth - 4 - need to cut down my internet use and get back to reading more. Need to manage my time much better.

Fun and Recreation - 7 - sometimes I get carried away with a hobby at the expense of relaxation.  I still haven't seen the movie No Country for Old Men!

MGTOW wheel of life - Evaluation
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So, how is your wheel?  Lopsided?  Balanced and round, but small?

My motivation

I currently have 19 goals which I try to work on equally.  I found that some goals overlapped with each other, and some had become stale and then ignored.  Some were made on a whim as soon as one goal was reached, with no looking at the big picture (or the big wheel). I only have one goal in Health, but 7 goals under Finances.  I simply won't reach those 7 goals if I am dead (or worse).  Think of your wheel's pie slices as each containing goals that will improve your score in that life category.  You can see how approaching your goals from this top-down approach can save you quite a bit of time, and steer you away from some goals that would have little impact or just become "busy work".

I do have each goal written down which is very important, otherwise they just become dreams that you think about from time to time. Before you know it, YEARS have passed and you are still dreaming.  Some goals are a bit too general like "Escape the rat race."  Upon inspection, one of my goals does not even fit on my wheel of life, and is now obsolete thanks to MGTOW.  Speaking of MGTOW, this exercise and this blog post, took a lot of time. Would I be able to do this if I was married?  I have my doubts! Not to mention the segments of my wheel which would not mesh well with my ex-wife's wheel (if she bothered to even go through this exercise).

The Wheel of Life exercise is the perfect starting point for goal-setting. My next steps are to take my wheel and create a mind-map for each area of life (segment).  That should make it clearer as to what goals are needed and/or what actions can be assigned to goals I might already have.

Books I've read that helped

Success For Dummies
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
The Millionaire Next Door: The Surprising Secrets of America's Rich
Think and Grow Rich


Friday, 25 April 2014

TOP 10 SKILLS MGTOW MEN LACK


TOP 10 SKILLS MGTOWS LACK


Background


First, I'll start off with an article I recently found at Daily Mail in the United Kingdom. They listed the TOP 10 SKILLS MEN LACK.  I won't provide the link to the article since they did not take the time to have a follow up article for the TOP 10 SKILLS WOMEN LACK.   So much for equality.  Oh wait, feminists claim they fight for equal human rights, so I expect them to launch a protest in the defence of men any minute now!

TOP 10 SKILLS MEN 'LACK'

 

·         1.Buying clothes for partner 52 per cent
·         2. Remembering anniversary 41 per cent
·         3. Dancing 33 per cent
·         4. Ironing 31 per cent
·         5. Cooking 30 per cent
·         6. Domestic chores 30 per cent
·         7. Buying gifts 28 per cent
·         8. Multitasking 22 per cent
·         9. Keeping up with fashion 22 per cent
·         10. Picking furniture 21 per cent

How odd that when you take out dancing, the remainder of the list neatly fits into two categories:
  • ·         Stuff you can BUY for the woman
  • ·         Stuff you can DO for the woman 
old but better built than today's chipboard crap.
old but better built than today's chipboard crap.

My rebuttal


1.Buying clothes for partner - narcissistic much? At what point in my life was I supposed to take a course in women's clothing.  Should I be into fashion too?  Speaking of fashion, for a society that is all about going green, how much sense does it make to make TONS of clothing get sent to the dump just because it is no longer in fashion?
2. Remembering anniversary - Yes, because it's ALL about you isn't it?  You get jewellery, I get a tie.
3. Dancing - I hate dancing. NEXT!
4. Ironing - Ever heard of wrinkle-resistant clothing?  Or that trick where you immediately hang clothes as soon as it is out of the dryer so that it doesn't wrinkle? With so many single mothers out there, why is it that their sons cannot (or will not) iron?
5. Cooking  - All through my life I have seen more men that are able to cook than women. In most of the married couples I know, it is the man that cooks the Thanksgiving turkey.
6. Domestic chores - I guess maintaining the car, mowing the lawn, fixing toilets, installing new taps, shovelling the snow, and so on just don't count.  The majority of men that I know also work longer hours than their wives, and at harder jobs than their wives.  Funny how that point never makes it into the myriad of articles bemoaning how women do the bulk of the household chores.  Articles typically written by women, for women.
7. Buying gifts - see #2
8. Multitasking - Multitasking equal Multi-Mistakes.
9. Keeping up with fashion - WTFC.... Who The F**K Cares!   It's a dumb racket based on pack behaviour
Fashion.   Pffft.
Fashion.   Pffft.
10. Picking furniture - You mean how we find something we like in the first 10 minutes, that you don't like, then it's followed by an hour of  compromise and  meeting your criteria of "Well this one has some light greens in the pattern" that will compliment the green of the picture frames on the wall..."   Also, see 9.

  These are ALL skills that:
  • ·         have almost NOTHING TO DO WITH MEN'S ROLES IN THE HOUSE
  • ·         have almost NOTHING TO DO WITH SOCIETY AT LARGE.


 Top Ten Skills MGTOW men lack


1. Giving a ****.
2. Caring about over a woman's entitled laundry lists of demands.
3. Realizing that you need a woman to prepare meals.
4. Ability to be treated like an ATM
5. Inability to swallow double standards.
6. Capacity to see that being legally robbed is a blessing.
7. Failure to see the beauty in being nagged and screamed at.
8. Desire to breed children that come with a bill but no role as father.
9. Willingness to self destruct.
10. Capacity to be manipulated.


Early picture of me while married
Early picture of me while married


I found this gem of a list in a comments section.  Hard to argue with any of these points and acts as a quick reminder why MGTOW is the life for me.

















Monday, 21 April 2014

MGTOW bringing Christians and Atheists together!

MGTOW bringing Christians and Atheists together!


 I consider myself Atheist, but found this religious guy on YouTube very watchable. He goes by the name of 'Pacific' and he supports MGTOW and understands why a guy would go this route. I found this particular video against feminists very well done. He gives a biblical perspective which is unique when compared to most MGTOW videos but arrives at many of MGTOW's conclusions. If you are not MGTOW and under the hopeful impression that a 'good Christian woman' would make a good wife, Pacific has a lot to say about that! He has had many experiences with Christian women which he shares to debunk that myth.

This actually might be the first reported case of feminism benefitting men! Creating a shared experience between Christian believers and MGTOW atheists!

Here is his video:   Feminism Is Taking Us Back To The Dark Ages!

Please do him a favor and subscribe and/or give his videos thumbs up!

signed,
"Arctic"
Day #29

Friday, 18 April 2014

MGTOW Humor for Day 26

humor, poster, relationships, marriage
MGTOW Humor for Day 26

A Chinese propaganda poster than lent itself rather well to my view of marriage.

Sunday, 13 April 2014

What I learned as a MGTOW. Episode 1 (part 2 of 2)



What I learned as a MGTOW. Episode 1 (part1/2)

 What I learned as a MGTOW. Episode 1 (part 2 of 2)

PART2


Readers' Experiences and Views


Men's experiences with dating women in their mid 30s to upper 40s consisted of:

-a women who talked about sex all the time but postponed it all the time, until she finally confessed she no longer had periods and had NO sex drive

-a woman in her early 30s who needed copious amount s of industrial strength lubricant because she could no longer get wet.
 
weekend supply for some
weekend supply for some
-a late 30s woman who roped him in with sexual innuendo, and after many dates said she was done with casual sex at this stage of her life.

- The worse sex of my life has been with American women over 30. It was almost unbearable.

- My last American GF had pussy problems and didn’t like sex anymore. It hurt whenever we tried to have it. Her GFs, that were her age, had pussy problems too.

Poor guy is almost tapped out
Poor guy is almost tapped out
- Women now feel free to value a man entirely on his body and his wallet. They engage in semipro prostitution on a regular basis and think they're evolved and liberated. The go to the bars and clubs and find a guy to buy them drinks while they scout for a sex partner. This is called "finding a sponsor" and is one of the first things a woman does upon arriving at a bar or club. Every trait that a feminist reviles in a man they embrace themselves fully and completely. Feminism was never about equality or liberation. It was about behaving as badly as they want without remorse.

- Clearly, the entire myth of women peaking in their 30's is a mating strategy attempting to hedge out the young, nubile competition. "You don't want an inexperienced, scared little girl, you want a real woman, just like me".

- Younger women START this game. As early as 12. They want "boyfriends" for all their stupid mall-hopping / Justin Bieber / Unicorn / Twilight fantasies ... even before they are willing (or ready!) to date like an adult. And will they want a boyfriend the same age? Hell no. When they are 13 they want a guy who is 16. When they are 18, they want him to be 24. When they are 21, he should be 30.... while passing over guys their own age for someone "more mature". Then BANG! They hit 31 and wonder why a guy her age is dating 19-21 year olds. She needs to be reminded that she STARTED that game and had no problem living in that little world. She even made fun of older women HERSELF!

- It's sad that this false notion of MILFing and old lady "sex appeal" is being propagated at every turn. Older single women have absolutely nothing to offer younger men. They are forlorn basket cases - that's why they're old and still single. Nobody wants them, even older single men.

-my own experience of 6 dates with a woman aged 35, who confessed she had a bad experience and hadn't had sex in the last 8 years.  She hoped she didn't give the wrong impression that we were headed for sex.  Of course not, all my female friends I hang out with say bye with French kissing.


 Feminism ruining women (again)


No Entry
No Entry
It's my opinion that feminism is ruining women.  Now it's ruining their ability to bear children as well. They glorify career women and always seem to downplay women's risks of having children in their 30s and 40s.  Throw in that most women now hitting their 30's have probably at least one bout with an STD, which if it went untreated for any period of time has huge lasting effects. Many Obstetricians have written that women postponing motherhood until their thirties (and even their forties) is a big media lie.  These articles are dismissed with the common feminist debating point of "Shut up! You’re sexist!” 

My own anecdotal evidence is the skyrocketing rates of autism, premature births, so many kids have learning disabilities , and lethal nut allergies.  Think autism (600% increase over the last generation in California alone).  I started kindergarten in 1973.  All through elementary school and up until grade 11, I never even heard of nut allergies.  Today, you can't bring peanut-anything to daycare, or schools. It would be like releasing sarin in a Tokyo subway station. Then there are the endless news specials about infertile women getting in vitro fertilization and ending up with multiple and premature babies.  I never thought about it till recently, but the women these shows are NEVER in their early to mid 20s.   

Poor kid.
Poor kid.
Speaking of autism, leave it to a worn out narcissistic bag like Jenny McCarthy (41) to take up the cause of anti-vaccination because she's too self absorbed to admit that it's her fault her son is autistic. Like a typical feminist she claims it's everybody else's fault for the misfortune she has brought on herself. I'm sure some feminist out there is funding research to see if ALL diseases are due to patriarchy. At any rate enough people believe a Playboy bunny over a lack of scientific evidence linking immunizations to autism, that it is killing children.  1,378 preventable deaths as of March 29, 2014 according to http://jennymccarthybodycount.com/Anti-Vaccine_Body_Count/Home.html


dead end
literally
In engineering you quickly learn about design tradeoffs.  You might design something to be efficient, but it will use more power.  Use more power, and it will be less efficient.  My point is ladies can't have it all. One of my earliest impressions of online dating was the sheer number of women who were over 35 that still wanted children.  There were quite a few that were in their 40s, and one was 44 who still wanted to have kids!  Assuming a whirlwind romance and getting married in less than a year AND getting started conceiving right away, she would be almost 46 while on the birthing table, and 64 at her kid's high school graduation!   By the time Timmy has his own kids, his Mom could be 75 and quite possibly dead on her stair lift.  Do these women ever do the math?  

The Graph Says It All


Wish I had seen this graph when I was in my 20s
Wish I had seen this graph when I was in my 20s


Ending on a lighter note


Obviously not homemade
Obviously not homemade
Milf and Cougars are like the first slice of bread in the bag... everybody touches you, but nobody wants you. 


 Time to go on a low carb diet.